100 CONVERSATIONAL QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR SPOUSE

 

WE’VE ALL BEEN THERE

You’re on a much-needed date night out, away from work, home, and the kids (if you have them). Whatever the activity you’re doing, there is time for conversations to happen and somehow the conversation ends up being any or all of the following scenarios:

  • Talking too much business stuff – the kids’ schedules, work stress, etc.
  • Not knowing what to talk about, especially if you think you know everything about each other already
  • Bringing up issues that start an argument

I think we’ve all found ourselves in one of these situations on our date nights before. And it’s taught us that…

I’ve shared in previous blog posts like, “The Importance of Fun,” how I have made mistakes in the past of bringing up business stuff like chores and the to-do list, and how it has dampened the fun of our dates. It helped me realize how important it is to keep this time focused on having fun with each other, getting away from the stresses of life, and strengthening our emotional intimacy.

QUESTIONS IDEAL FOR MARRIED COUPLES

Date night conversations should be light-hearted, positive, engaging, and focused on the present. And one of the best ways people try to accomplish this is through asking each other questions. Just when you think, “I don’t know what to ask my spouse because I already know pretty much everything about them!” THINK AGAIN!

If you’re like me and my husband, you have searched online for different questions to ask your spouse while at dinner. We have asked each other questions from a few different resources, but I’ll be honest, I haven’t found a single resource for questions that are ideal for married couples. What I mean is that married couples need questions that meet the following criteria: 1) the questions go beyond the basics that we should already know because those conversations can get dull and 2) they avoid questions that are too serious for date night because they have the potential to cause an argument.

So Trevor suggested that I write a blog post of my own consisting of great conversational questions that were light-hearted and engaging! Ones that are perfect for married couples to ask on date night, road trips, or during any other quality time spent together! So here are 100 different questions you can ask your spouse while you’re just sitting there waiting for your food to come!

100 CONVERSATIONAL QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR SPOUSE

  1. If you could relive a year in your life, what age would you choose?
  2. What physical features of mine do you hope our kids receive?
  3. What is your favorite date of ours?
  4. Have you ever been in a studio audience for a tv show?
  5. If you had to do an extreme sport, what would you do?
  6. What is a favorite charity you love and why?
  7. When was the last time you read a magazine, played a CD, or read from a physical book?
  8. Which of your parents are you most like?
  9. Which of your siblings are you most like?
  10. What’s a new hobby you’ve always wanted to try?
  11. What’s something you’ve always wanted to learn how to do?
  12. If you won the lottery, what would you do with the money?
  13. What does your ideal day look like?
  14. What would you do with a week of solitary confinement?
  15. What’s another career that you think you would enjoy?
  16. What famous person would you want to meet and why?
  17. If you could pick your own “Avengers” team of 6 people, who would be on your time and why?
  18. Are you an optimist, pessimist, or a realist?
  19. What do you want to name a pet, or your next pet?
  20. If you bought a boat, what would you name it?
  21. What job do you think you would have if you lived in the early 1900’s?
  22. Who do you wish we lived closer to?
  23. Which game show do you think you could win?
  24. What genre of books would you spend the most time looking through in a bookstore?
  25. How many days could you go without electricity?
  26. How many days could you go without a phone?
  27. How many telephone numbers do you actually have memorized?
  28. If you went on a game show, which one would you want to be on?
  29. What is the funniest prank you’ve ever played on someone?
  30. Have you ever gotten in trouble playing a prank on someone?
  31. Would you ever drive across the country in an RV?
  32. If you could have a free punch to someone’s face, who would it be and why?
  33. Do you think today’s generation of youth have it tougher than you did?
  34. Would you like to be on a jury?
  35. Do you think life on another planet could be discovered in our lifetime?
  36. Who is your favorite late night tv show host?
  37. What does your ideal Saturday look like in the Winter? Summer? Fall? Spring?
  38. What was the first meal you ever made?
  39. Has a self-help book ever helped you?
  40. Who is an ancestor of yours that you admire?
  41. Who is the best boss you’ve ever had and why do you admire them?
  42. Was there anything unusual about your birth?
  43. Do you think you would make a good politician?
  44. Do you think you would make a good food critic?
  45. Do you prefer looking at the sunrise or the sunset?
  46. What was the best “pay it forward” kindness experience you’ve received?
  47. How many times have you won something in your life? (an award, a contest, a giveaway, a drawing, game show, etc.)
  48. Have you ever been stuck on an elevator?
  49. Are you most creative on your own or working with a team?
  50. What is a consistent compliment you’ve received throughout your life?
  51. Do you have a celebrity doppelganger?
  52. What event or party would you want to have VIP access to?
  53. What’s the most clever and funny joke you have ever heard?
  54. What is something you consistently asked Santa for as a child but never got?
  55. What were your favorite books to read as a kid?
  56. What was your favorite family tradition growing up?
  57. What is something you hated as a kid but now appreciate?
  58. What national historical event have you found most interesting?
  59. What unsolved historical event are you most interested in knowing the answers to?
  60. Who was your favorite teacher in high school and why?
  61. Who’s Ted Talk would you want to be in the audience for?
  62. Did you ever do something to be sent to the principal’s office?
  63. What was the last article you read about?
  64. What is your ideal party to attend?
  65. Do you have a motto you like to live by?
  66. What book do you wish everyone was required to read in school?
  67. What is one thing you never did in high school that you wish you did?
  68. Did your family grow up with any funny or weird rules?
  69. What are the most exciting things you have done on a dare?
  70. What kind of videos do you watch on youtube most often?
  71. Would you rather skydive, bungee jump, parasail, or hang glide?
  72. What volunteer work would you like to do some day?
  73. If you had a clone, how would you utilize him or her?
  74. Name a person you have a lot of respect for and why?
  75. If you could be the opposite gender for a day, what would you specifically do?
  76. Did you ever make up a secret handshake with a friend, and do you still remember it?
  77. When should you tell a child about Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, or the Easter bunny?
  78. If safety wasn’t a concern, what natural phenomenon would you want to experience?
  79. Would you rather put together a 20,000 piece puzzle or read a dictionary cover-to-cover?
  80. What would you like to create with your own hands?
  81. If you were a guest on a talk show, what would you talk about?
  82. What trivia game subject do you answer the most correct questions in?
  83. Have you ever sung/acted/performed in front of an audience?
  84. What book should be turned into a movie that hasn’t yet?
  85. Do you like designing things or making them yourself?
  86. What celebrity should be cast as you if your life was put into a movie?
  87. If you started a music group, what would your band name be?
  88. Did you ever have a wish come true blowing out birthday candles?
  89. What are some of the most comforting smells or scents to you?
  90. What is the best toy every kid should have?
  91. What was the kindest thing a stranger has ever done for you?
  92. What consistent compliment do you hear most about you?
  93. What is the best life advice you have received and who said it?
  94. If you started your own restaurant, what food would you serve?
  95. What prop in a movie or television show would you pay money for?
  96. What other languages would you want to learn?
  97. What is the coolest thing you learned in a museum?
  98. What song could you karaoke to?
  99. What music album have you heard the most of?
  100. Have you ever done a dare for money?

By Amy at www.freshlymarried.com

BIO:

I am a Family Life Educator teaching couples how to strengthen their marriage and keep it fresh through helpful advice, support, ideas, and inspiration!

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Venue Shopping!

According to the planners, and my personal experience, most venues are reserved at least a year in advance. Which translates to a little bit of stress, since here I am with less than 11 months until I get married and I'm still venue-less! 

 

If I had picked a theme by now this would be substantially easier, but I have not. Hopefully viewing some venues will help me narrow down a possible theme but where to start?

Do you want to get married in the mountains with eagles soaring above your head and the crisp fresh air surrounding you?

What about a resort with lush flower gardens and peaceful streams?

Do you picture a wedding in a ballroom with waxed wooden floors and high ceilings you can hang flowers and lights from?

What about even a wedding in Vegas married by a man who sounds like Elvis or in Disneyland where you can actually get picked up in Cinderella's horse drawn carriage?

Personally, I am the ballroom girl. I loved Belle as a little girl and I don't know if I will pick the ball gown dress or not, but I do know I want a ballroom. Now, where will this ballroom be located?

 

I live in an extremely rural area which has very limited options for venues and vendors. Due to the limited supply, yet seemingly high demand, this could drive the cost of my wedding up substantially and I may not even find anything I like. Over the years I have saved several venues I liked. They are located all over, including Salt Lake, Ogden, Jackson Hole, even a few in Denver. All of these places are within a few hours drive from my home which isn't a big deal for us, however, the majority of my family and friends live very close by and I don't want to ask all of them to travel for the wedding. According to the Knot.com guests are less likely to come if they have to travel out of town and if they have to pay a substantial amount to attend your wedding. So much that the out of town percentage is estimated at less than 60%.

 

I guess my decision is made! Our wedding will be right here, in Rock Springs WY. Or Green River, since they are only 12 miles apart. 😃 

 

Ceremony Venue:

I am a traditionalist and I want to get married in a church. Conveniently for me, my church does not have any fees associated with a wedding ceremony so it will be free. (Budget win and dream come true!)

 

If you aren't interested in getting married in a church there are lots of other options. You can get married by a judge in just about any town at any venue for a small fee. My fiance's sister had one of her other sisters get ordained and she conducted their wedding ceremony. However, if you want your ceremony and reception in the same area keep in mind you will need to set up/tear down or rearrange things before your reception starts.

 

Reception Venue:

I know that I want a ballroom (or something very similar) but there are so many questions I need to figure out the answers to.

How much space do I really need? As of right now, I'm thinking 300 guests. I haven't priced food so that might have to get cut down but it's better to have too much space, than not enough. That narrows it down to Holiday Inn, The Elks Lodge, local fair grounds, or a city owned Pavilion. Each of these venues has different rules, expectations, and opportunities.

What are the rules?

What are the expectations?

What about vendors?

What about drinks?

What about security?

This is where my Wedding Planner is finally going to get used! My venue section has columns for me to compare different features of each venue. However, after being a real estate agent, I know there is NOTHING more important than taking a walk through the venue. Pictures speaks a 1,000 words and people can answer 100 questions in great detail, but when you walk into a place you really know how it feels, and only then can you start picturing your big day. 

Luckily for me, I have already hosted events in all of these places and know that the city pavilion will work best for me. It has enormous vaulted ceilings, no vendor constraints, no time or music constraints, and is located right next to a bridge extending over the Green River, which can serve as a beautiful backdrop for photos or for guests who need some fresh air. Conveniently it is also the cheapest of all my options at $400 a day with a $500 deposit. Since my wedding is a DIY, I will be renting it for 3 days. One to decorate, one to celebrate, and one to clean up (definitely not excited for the cleanup day.)

 The venue was not available to rent on Thursday so we have moved our wedding date one day (from the 3rd to the 4th) to accommodate for our decorating time. Although I had to move the date, I'm still getting the venues I want for $1200. I'm checking this off as another budget win! 

     


AUTHOR BIO:

My name is Chelsey Cloward and I am a DIY-er. I'm twenty-seven and I work as a design specialist for the largest power plant on the west side of the Mississippi. For those of you who don't know, design specialist is a fancy term for industrial drafter. Between the hours I work and commute to work, I am gone for 11 to 12 hours a day. I am also the President of the Activities Committee for the plant, which means I plan and coordinate each and every event for the 350 employees we have (picnics, golf tournaments, poker runs, Christmas parties, etc). Because of this, I have become highly organized and efficient, both in my event planning abilities and my personal life. In my personal life, I am extremely creative. I grew up wanting to be an interior designer or an inventor and spent my time as a child constantly drawing, painting, and creating things. So each and every chance I get I customize my home, my camper, and anything else I can get my hands on!

On March 18th, 2017 my best friend proposed to me and now I am getting to plan my biggest, most stressful party yet: My Wedding. I'm going to take you, my reader, on this wild, scary, fun journey with me. I'll break down everything I can so you can see the ins and outs of planning your own wedding, learn from my failures and my triumphs, and hopefully, be entertained!

Dreams VS Reality

I've been dreaming about my wedding day for years. I have two separate boards on Pinterest, each with over 2,000 pins. I have so many ideas that it's almost difficult to start planning.  The disadvantage of Pinterest is that there is no archive button and some of my pins and ideas don't fit in with my style anymore. It's time to get realistic about what I can actually pull off, what I can actually afford, and what I actually like!  

 

Dreams VS Reality: Announcing Our Engagement

It has been a total of 16 days since I got engaged. When I was dreaming about Jason asking me to be his wife I didn't ever dream of the proposal (I'm not very materialistic and a pretty simple girl.) However, I did dream about my excitement after saying yes. I dreamt of throwing a huge party where we could announce our engagement by popping bottles of champagne and confetti poppers. What I didn't think about in this great dream, was how I was going to keep this amazing event secret long enough to plan a party. Long story short, neither of us could keep from telling everyone we knew (and even some people we didn't know!.) That being said, after we told everyone we starting thinking we don't want to throw a party. We have no idea who is going to be in our lines and we don't want people buying us unnecessary presents. So for right now, we have decided against an engagement party. 

 

Dreams VS Reality: Timeline

16 whole days! Yet, every person I have told the news to, the first question they ask is "When's the big day?" To which my response is, "uh......... I have no idea." How do you even pick a wedding day? 

  1. This goes back to your theme. If you have a theme in mind, you can generally tie it to a season which will narrow your day selection down to a 3 month period. 
  2. What if I don't have a theme? Great question. This is the boat I am currently rowing. The themeless party boat. So I have asked myself:
    1. What days are important days to avoid? I made a list of everyone's birthdays and both of our family reunions.
    2. What days are special to us as a couple? Our first date, our first kiss, when we became "official", when he proposed
    3. When are the holidays? Getting married on holiday weeks or weekends can be touch and go. Most people want to use the extra day off from work to do something special or fun that they can't normally do on a weekend. 
    4. Do I want to get married during the week or the weekend? This was easy for me because 90% of my friends and family work Monday through Friday and are not going to be celebrating with me on a school night. This is going to increase the cost of my wedding caterers and venues because there is naturally a higher demand for their services on the weekends, but, I would rather have everyone in attendance. 
    5. How long do you need to save and plan for your wedding? My dream: I'll get married in November. My reality: I could only save about $4,000 in the next six months and I have unusually busy summer months so I would have to make my wedding and reception as simple as possible. I don't think I will have enough time to plan, nor do I think I can have the wedding I want on a $4k budget. So a 6 month timeline and November wedding is out. 

 

My second dream was to get married on the day we started dating, thus we could keep our same anniversary. That day is important to us already and my fiance is excited he won't have to try to remember a NEW date. So, March 4th it is. Now, I do not want to wait 2 years so 2018 it is. This should give us enough time to save about $8-$10K, which is a pretty reasonable budget. In the Wyoming tundra, we will still be covered in snow and 60 mile an hour winds on March 4th, but that will also help me establish a theme. Now that I have a date not only can I answer the million dollar question, but I have a better idea of how to start my budget. Some venues and vendors will have different rates based on the season and will also have different kinds of availability.

 

Dreams VS Reality: A Budget

I mentioned saving for a budget before, because I'm 27. I really don't expect my parents to pay for my wedding when I have a good job and am financially stable.  I need to know how much I need to save in my 11 month timeline. I read the entire "Broke Ass Bride's Guide" in about 10 hours. I made a list while reading it of all the websites and tricks I plan on utilizing, but more importantly, it had real budgets from other weddings. Since I don't just have a blanket amount I am starting with I am going to start narrowing things down by importance. Some brides spend thousands on flowers, others spent the majority of their money on food or a Vera Wang dress. 

First, what does my wedding HAVE to have?

    1. A place to get married (ceremony and reception venues), someone to conduct the wedding (I want a priest), someone to take photos of the wedding. So, how do you picture your wedding? Formally and traditionally, in a church? In a beautiful secret garden of a resort? In the mountains? Maybe you want to be married by elvis or on a rollercoaster in Disneyland. Anything is possible, but it all comes with a price tag. Do some general research on where you think you'd like to get married, what is available for your date, and then get some general quotes on your top 3. 
    2. The thing a wedding has to have, in my opinion, is a photographer. My three wedding planners all agree that photography should be 14% of your budget. That's the second largest part of the budget by their terms. Now, I don't know if I agree with 14% because that could be thousands and thousands of dollars, but it is vital. So start looking through photographer's portfolios. I am going to pick five of my favorites and jot down their general package pricing. 
    3. I am also going to spend some time solidifying my theme so that I can then start looking at general decoration ideas. That way I know if I want 3 glass vases on every table I can google search vases and get an estimate of how much that will cost. 
    4. Although money isn't everything, everything about planning your special day is going to come down to money. 

 

Don't go to deep into depth looking into any of the venues, photographers, or decor yet. We are just trying to figure out what the puzzle is going to look like in general, not actually put together any of the pieces. Not yet, at least!


AUTHOR BIO:

My name is Chelsey Cloward and I am a DIY-er. I'm twenty-seven and I work as a design specialist for the largest power plant on the west side of the Mississippi. For those of you who don't know, design specialist is a fancy term for industrial drafter. Between the hours I work and commute to work, I am gone for 11 to 12 hours a day. I am also the President of the Activities Committee for the plant, which means I plan and coordinate each and every event for the 350 employees we have (picnics, golf tournaments, poker runs, Christmas parties, etc). Because of this, I have become highly organized and efficient, both in my event planning abilities and my personal life. In my personal life, I am extremely creative. I grew up wanting to be an interior designer or an inventor and spent my time as a child constantly drawing, painting, and creating things. So each and every chance I get I customize my home, my camper, and anything else I can get my hands on!

On March 18th, 2017 my best friend proposed to me and now I am getting to plan my biggest, most stressful party yet: My Wedding. I'm going to take you, my reader, on this wild, scary, fun journey with me. I'll break down everything I can so you can see the ins and outs of planning your own wedding, learn from my failures and my triumphs, and hopefully, be entertained!

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